First…a WARNING. This post is sarcastic, very personal, and a lota cheesey.
THIS SUMMER HAS BEEN INSANE
Strike that. These last 2 .5 years have been insane.
They have literally been the best years so far.
I’ve been given a pretty amazing life. I have this family that I would do anything for. Friends that I’d do the same. I have a well of memories and moments that I will never be able to forget.
There have been some really difficult times but they have nothing on the best times.
But these two years I feel like God has really pulled everything together.
LET’S GO BACK TO JANUARY 2016
I went on this snow tubing extravaganza with two of my best friends and their friend. It was supposed to be a big group and ended up just being the four of us. I was TERIFFIED that it would be perceived that I was planning this to get a date with this guy (the friend). I wasn’t mad about how it ended up but did NOT want it to be awkward.
God forbid anything I do be awkward. ß sarcasm
It turned out to be pretty great. The friend even remembered me from the first time we met which I thought was pretty cool.
The friend and I are now getting married – October 2019!
Meet Brandon, my fiancé, best friend and comparable weirdo.
HERE’S HOW IT HAPPENED
Buckle in….it’s a long one.
We met at a party almost 3 years ago where our friend Mae put us in a room; me having lost my voice and was (am) just perpetually awkward anyway and he also…uhm…not a talker. I believe her words were “Brandon also does photography” and then she left. He said “yup” I mouthed the words “that’s cool” and then he grabbed a piece of pizza and said “nice to meet you”. We both departed from the kitchen.
That was the end of our meet-cute
After that and a light bit of social media stalking I was so unconvinced that Mae knew me at all; by his feed of horror movie references and metal band call outs vs my complete lack of interest…no no complete terror of both of those things.
FAST FORWARD AGAIN TO JANUARY 2019
I remembered Brandon from that party and remember thinking how cute he was. Very James Franco meets Kevin Love.
I was happy about the coincidence of it turning into a non double date. I even got a little excitedly nervous - (the little bit of whiskey before they arrived helped a little).
The night was great. We all chatted I got to know him and got to look at his face. Those dimples, his laugh, his genuine conversation, passion for his interests and his giant bear hug arms got me.
I was officially into him.
You might think – oh they must’ve went on a date after that and the rest is history.
Our first date-aversary isn’t until May of that year.
The day after that trip it was unusually hot for January so I went out for a walk and I don’t know why but it began my own personal mission of getting my life where I wanted it to be.
I unknowingly got in the best shape of my life and I spent those next few months completely taking time to be in a relationship with God. I did devotions every morning, I had talks with God. I was in a place where I had always wanted to be but the selfishness of my early twenties and college life didn’t allow.
I had never felt better.
I prayed a LOT.
I prayed that the desires of my heart would become His and I prayed for my future husband.
I prayed that both our hearts be ready for each other when we met and that we both put God in the middle of our love for each other.
I prayed that I would know when I met him…
What I didn’t know is that I already had.
What God knew was that our hearts weren’t ready for each other then.
But by May they were.
Guess who, I was hanging out with when the idea sparked to have Brandon be a second shooter for me at a wedding?
Mae, may have suggested that she knew a guy who could help me out. I wont say the thought hadn’t crossed my mind but I thought that short book had closed….it had been 4 months since the last time I saw him and we maybe had one social media interaction since then.
But I did I asked him. I don’t know why, other than that I was still curious about him and I really did need a second shooter.
He agreed. That morning he drove to Columbus and as I realized he was on the way it hadn’t occurred to me until then that we would be in the car together for 3HOURS… 3 there and also 3 back.
It was a perfect scenario to see an awkward being in their natural habitat.
But I have to say…I think I was pretty cool (Brandon will probably tell you I was not – but he fell for me anyway so HA)
We talked the ENTIRE time. I was so taken aback when I thought about it the next day. The wedding was for a friend so we even stayed after the photos were all taken to have a beer together and TALKED MORE. Knowing full well we had an entire 3 hour drive back to Columbus to fill time with conversation.
But that was it. a few flirty texts and an unofficial invite to have some left over graduation chicken (that he never got) later and we had our first date.
It didn’t take long for us to decide that the hour and a half drive was worth it a few times a week to hang out. We met each other’s families and friends, we went to a lot of new places and we had a lot of pizza.
It wasn’t all easy. The love was never questioned, the compatibility was. But I never felt that from him. I was so blessed to have someone who had no doubts, no concerns, and just loved me.
I knew God had chosen him for me. I knew that he waited until the exact right time for our hearts to be ready and I know that he paved a path for our lives to align.
A FEW MOMENTS I REMEMBER SO CLEARLY
First was when I knew I wanted to tell him I loved him. We were dancing in the kitchen at his house and he was just being goofy and terribly dipped me and kissed me. I knew. I don’t know what about that moment made me realize but I knew.
I didn’t have the courage to tell him though for another few weeks.
Another was when I knew I wanted to marry him.
I had a feeling pretty much since week one but there was one moment when he asked if I wanted to pray before a meal. Simple. Something we had done before something I wished I was better at being consistent with but wasn’t. But when he asked I knew then (*shoulder shrug*) that was it.
Then I played the waiting game….
But not patiently I should add lol.
Luckily he was patient enough for the both of us. Until…..
2018 has been a crazy one.
Little did I know that Brandon’s year was crazier than mine. We traveled a lot for us. And he knew the whole time that we would be leaving Florida with a new title.
Our first day of vacation I reluctantly got up at 5:30AM
My fiancé asked me on the beach to be his wife…WIFE (that term gives me all the feels)
I think I blacked out. But cried and said yes all in one breath.
We still have so many adventures ahead.
But this year has been a great one.
WHAT IF IT ALL STARTED BACK THEN?
We’ve been asked more than once where we think we’d be if we had just started dating after that first party. Honestly I don’t know, maybe we would have been married already, maybe we have broken up.
I can tell you I was two completely different people from that day to the day we went snow tubing. And yet another whole person when we went on our first date.
THE POINT OF SHARING?
It was fun to share! In a world of DMs and tinder we got really lucky. However you meet your love is beautiful of course, but for me personally that world seems stressful and God knew that. God had our backs. I love how we met. I love whom I met. I love that I can so clearly see that God had his hand in it all.
The point is that for those of you struggling with when you’ll find your perfect someone, everyone has been there.
I remember many a-nights wondering if I would ever find someone that fit my heart.
Know that it isn’t perfect, it doesn’t happen the way you think it will. It can’t be forced. You have to get right with yourself and with God first. He knows when you’re ready. You never will until it’s happening.